Wednesday, July 21, 2010

the vanishing mom

Im really here, promise.

I can't tell you how many times I have come to my blog, wanting to write but unable. Mentally.

I am not going to whine about having four kids. Not at all. But I just can't get my game on at the end of the day when I am sitting at the computer. I am done. Stick a fork in me, done. I am pretty sure people have stopped checking my blog anyway. But in the event that anyone is interested..

*I have ordered our first homeschool curriculum. It should be coming in the mail soon. I have organized (again) our schoolroom in anticipation for all the "stuff" that is coming. I love it.

*My almost 2 year old daughter, Eva (Aug. 26th) wants to potty train, but alas, I am not ready. Yes, you read that correctly. I can not do it at this moment. Ok, I can, but I don't want to. Pretty sad.

*Isaac is 10 weeks old today and is 16 lbs and is doing a 7 hour stretch at night from 7 pm to 2 a.m. Granted, if he eats at 6, 7 or 8pm he will still wake up at 2 a.m and then again at 5a.m. Here's hoping he keeps this run. Because no, i will not be doing any Ezzo on that one should he wake up at 12 a.m and want to eat. ;-P

*Jorge and Alex. The boys are keeping me busy and insane. They have started with bad attitudes and phrases that we do not like. We are praying through it and trying to help them make better choices. It's exhausting. mainly because discipline for behaviors is a lot easier than it is for heart issues. I can't make them have a kind heart towards their family. I can make them pick up toys. yeah, so it's hard right now.. because the one is influencing the other therefore i have the problem X2.

Obviously I am behind on picture postings but here are some recent fun ones.

notice the bad attitude in the middle.. lol.

the new cart at walmart.. love it. isaac was in the moby wrap.

I like my van fully loaded..

the kiddos that are absolutely precious and I am blessed to have.

well, that's it for now.. see ya next month (haha.. hopefully sooner).


Carla said...

Ok, got a few questions for ya:

all the books I've read about feeding/bedtime routines say to "dream feed" or "cluster feed" or whatever at night so that the babies will sleep more through "sleepy time" hours. Have you found it better or easier since you have older children to do it your way, feeding them for the last time around 7ish? (I mean obviously you have... You're doing it :) And how does that work out if you're out of the house? And also what is "Ezo"?

Sandy said...

Thank you so much for sharing your wonderful family with all of us. Your loyal readers will be here no matter when you come back! (Although I am really excited to read about your experiences with this curriculum, so I hope you'll write lots about that!)

Lindsay said...

There's no shame in posting irregularly. Your family (and personal sanity) must come first. Those of us who subscribe to your blog get the updates when you post them, regardless of how long it's been :).

Rachel Garcia, CD(DONA) said...


loaded question/subject. Ask quickly as possible. Ezzo is the author of "baby wise." A book that I don't really like. Some things are helpful (as in Eat, play, sleep cycle- which i disagree about when you should start that) and also i agree that helping a kid learn to fall asleep on their own is important (but i differ on methods/age of that, too). I do allow my children to cry but not the way the book calls for. And the book slams childwearing, which i think is absurd and just plain stupid.

So with that said, all my kids settled into their own rhythm fairly quickly (eating every 3 hours). but against Ezzo.. if they showed signs of wanting to eat at 2 hours or 2 1/2 I feed them. it didn't ruin them.. it was generally just for a day and then they would return back to that. I also NEVER wake a sleeping baby (except in the first 5-6 weeks, but only during the day). I definitely don't wake a sleeping baby at night. Which is what happens with our kiddos. Isaac will eat at 6,7 or 8 and then we put him to bed and follow his eating desires (which happen to work out for a long stretch) until about 6-7 months. At that point at that age I try to ween them off that middle of the night feeding (or 2 am feeding in this case).

What was your question about being out of the house?

hope that helps. I haven't heard of cluster feeding. What is that?

I basically approach the whole subject as read whatever books you can, take what you can use and leave the rest. Not everything is a good fit for everyone. ;-)

Carla said...

Yes, I definitely agree with taking and leaving some from all the books/methods. Each baby is different!

We tried baby wise with Audrey and it was the worst! It only lasted a few days but I still feel so guilty about it! She was not the baby that would cry for a bit and drift off to sleep. She would cry until she made herself sick. So I decided just to use the schedule the give and that's it.

Cluster feeding is in the Baby Whisperer (something kind of like it is in Baby Wise too.) You feed the baby every two hours near bedtime including the last feeding where you basically feed a sleeping baby or "dream feed" them so that their tummy will be full, and hopefully sleep a little longer. It was very easy to do this with Audrey, but Jack wakes up too much to where it's definitely not a dream feed or not enough and he doesn't eat anything, haha. So I think I'll just wait and try it with him when he's a little older.

Question about you being out of the house, I just wondered if it disturbed Issac's sleep if you were out after his bedtime or if you adjusted his "last" feeding accordingly.

Thanks for your help and advice!

Greta said...

Ha! I'm posting about a infrequently as you and I have half the kids. Do.not.apologize!

You're in my google reader so I know when you need for checking :).

The kids are adorable, just plain adorable! And holy cow, 16 lbs?!?!

Anonymous said...

Those first few months are always such a blur. Just survive and try to enjoy too! :)

Sarah said...

Good to hear from you, Rachel. A well-rounded post. Loved the pics. And I totally hear you about the potty training. My 3rd is already past two and I'm not ready either (and neither is she, for that matter). There are more important things than potty training. She will eventually learn, and it won't have mattered when (unless she's in college when it happens). Best not to stress an already over-taxed mama, I think.

Thanks for sharing!