Tuesday, July 28, 2009

Im a social zero.

So I got a great opportunity the other day.  I got to make a real life connection with a web friend. I don't know how many of your Internet acquaintances have turned into real life friends but it truly is a fun experience.  

Lindsay mentioned on Facebook that she was heading to the zoo.. and funny as it was, we had already decided that we were going that morning too.  So I mentioned to her that we might actually get to go and therefore could meet! Fun!  

When we got there it was as if we already "knew" each other because we follow each other on each others' blogs.  It's neat.  But after the fact I felt I had to apologize to her because I was sure I made a horrible "real life" first impression.  Why? 

Because having kids has made me inept in the social interaction department.  Actually, having three very young kids, that is.  My good friends that I see all the time could tell you that I just don't do very many play dates because I just don't get the opportunity to finish a thought, much less a sentence.  

I am okay with this season of my life, mind you, but I know it has to come across and my being rude or, worse, uninterested in others.. But nothing could be further from the truth.  In fact, at this particular event I had "lost" the boys a couple of times.  By that I mean.. they went from the sprinklers to the "playground area" like little CIA undercover operatives (aka.. without my knowing it).  I am sure I seemed like I was the most absent minded parent but the truth is that I can only focus on one thing at a time.. conversation or my children.  I can't do both. 

I know moms understand.. but i just feel better not doing a play date because then I don't have to keep apologizing for the lack of focus on the conversation.  At least, until my youngest child is four.. and at the rate we are going with kiddos that could be a while.  

Moral of the story:  take the opportunity to meet "Internet friends" you will be blessed.  Also, don't volunteer to take my kids to the zoo.  :-P


Greta said...

Awesome. I only have one and I already feel like this.

At least you'll get some (somewhat) "adult" conversation in tonight. It will be uninterrupted by your children, but I can't promise the same for mine.

Rachel said...

TOTALLY know what you mean. I'm sure your friend understood too!

And yes, meeting internet friends in real life is awesome!

Ole Miss Mom said...

Again, I was THRILLED to finally meet you! And wasn't phased a bit by both of our children running around and cutting off both sides of our conversation!

They were ADORABLE and I'm glad I finally got to meet them (and YOU!) in person!

We'll definitely have to get together soon!!

andria said...

I feel the same way when I try to have a friend over sometimes. I don't do it often b/c I just can't focus on much else other than my children who are in constant need of discipline these days. I always feel bad after I meet up w/ a friend and have not asked them one question about themselves, but I also know they always understand.

Missi said...

Funny! I don't do play dates either, unless it's at a house. Those seem to work out okay. ;)